Monday, December 1, 2008

De-Stress the Holidays By Making It About One Thing

Nearly everyone says the holidays are stressful and even depressing for some. We all wish they went a different way. Well, think about it for a moment. What is the polar opposite of stress?

The answer, of course, is peace. What a revelation, since peace is exactly what the holidays are supposed to celebrate.

Well, there it is: the solution to holiday stress. Make the holidays all about what it is supposed to be about. Make it about one thing: being at peace and nothing else. Make peace the most important thing you do every day.

Fortunately, peace couldn’t be simpler. Here’s what you need to remember about peace and what to do to turn peace into a dynamic attitude.

1. Peace is quiet, so start each day this season in quiet. First thing each morning, practice setting a peaceful day in motion. Close your eyes or take a downward gaze. Tilt your head toward your heart. Follow your breathing. Feel each breath softening your heart and opening it wider. Feel appreciation for the gift of another day of life. Set your intention to have a great day, filled with achieving things, feeling peaceful inside, regardless of what is happening outside.
2. Peace is spiritual, so take spiritual breaks. During the day, every couple of hours look out the window for a minute or so and let your mind go completely. Observe what the sky is doing. Watch the wind blow, the sun shine, or the snow fall. Allow yourself to feel connected to life.

3. Peace is grateful. So, once a week, before going to sleep, count your blessings. Name three things that happened this week for which you are grateful. Then name three aspects of your life, generally, for which you feel blessed.

4. Peace is spacious. Every now and then, take a time-out, close your eyes and talk to your mind like this: Please, mind, go a little slower. Don’t be so nervous. Open a little
wider. Think less, love more and believe this: Everything is going to be alright.

Then go out into the world and smell the roses (or the holly). Hug the people you love. Watch children play. Play closer attention to this moment,right here, right now and let life surprise you.
5. Peace is forgiving. 100 per cent. So forgive everyone and every bad thing that has happened, is happening now, and is sure to happen again. Forgive the past so completely that you hardly see the past any more.
6. Peace is intelligent. It finds the middle path, the place of balance, where you don’t eat too much or spend too much or withhold too much. Where you don’t overdo much of anything. Also, peace is not a doormat. Equally, it is smart enough not to stand in harm’s way. So if someone or some situation is abusive or stupid or dangerous, remove yourself.
7. Peace is secure within. So don’t worry about anything. Make it a pledge that during the holidays you will practice not worrying.
8. Peace does not judge, so judge nothing that occurs. Don't judge yourself when you slip up, become stressed and maybe even behave badly. Let it go and choose peace all over again. The same goes for other people's nonsense. Enjoy the dance of life on Earth and don’t judge any of it. Life isn’t supposed to make sense; neither is love. It’s all a mystery. Just listen and feel and see with such empathy that it no longer occurs to you to condemn any part of what you are hearing or feeling or seeing.
9. Peace is adaptable. If you are not at peace and peace of mind feels a thousand miles away, use the back door. Be at peace with your non-peace.
10. Peace is faith. So have faith. There is no degree of stress in any situation that faith cannot remove. Often the problem in life is not the situation we face but the lack of faith with which we face it.
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